Honestly, if I'm going to be that close to someone (and I am) in a serious relationship, they deserve to know, because unfortunately transphobia *is* real, and some people just aren't going to be able to get past it. And if they aren't, I don't want to waste my time with them, beyond purely platonic relationships (which has happened).
Fortunately, not only does my wife "get it", *she* pursued *me*, even after finding out, because to her, it was the person inside the outer wrapping that mattered.
I fathered one child. She's 25 now, I'm very glad she's doing well, and she was a surprise (at least to me - I have, and always have had, suspicions about her mom planning on it, but anyway...), but - no more kids for me. Fortunately, my wife's on board with that, too. Our kids have four feet, fur, and either meow or bark.
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Fortunately, not only does my wife "get it", *she* pursued *me*, even after finding out, because to her, it was the person inside the outer wrapping that mattered.
I fathered one child. She's 25 now, I'm very glad she's doing well, and she was a surprise (at least to me - I have, and always have had, suspicions about her mom planning on it, but anyway...), but - no more kids for me. Fortunately, my wife's on board with that, too. Our kids have four feet, fur, and either meow or bark.